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“Don’t ever tell people ‘I Told You So’”
- By THE CHURCHILL PROJECT
- | May 13, 2016
- Category: Churchill's Character Q & A
Avoid telling people “I told you so,” said Churchill, who resisted “rubbing it in,” even when he was proved right.
A reader of a Churchill remark to his daughter Mary, recounted by the historian John Lukacs: “Don’t ever tell people ‘I told you so.’” Asked to confirm the source, we could not find it in anything by Lady Soames. Yet this was a maxim Churchill frequently stated. We ferreted out several examples from the literature. Here are the most interesting:
In December 1944, Churchill had flown to Athens to adjudicate a civil war that had broken out between royalists and communists. There he encouraged the appointment of Archbishop Damaskinos as regent, to encourage unity and end hostilities. His doctor, Lord Moran, observed: “Intervention in Greece was his own idea, and he had to defend it practically single-handed. It is one of Winston’s engaging qualities that he will never say ‘I told you so,’ yet two years later the temptation must have been compelling, for his policy was taken over, lock, stock and barrel, by the United States.”
The Earl Alexander of Tunis recalled the Greek episode in addressing the Rt. Hon. Sir Winston Spencer Churchill Society of Edmonton, Alberta on 24 April 1967. His words reveal not only something about Churchill, but offer good advice about avoiding recriminations in general:
To return to his acceptance of Archbishop Damaskinos [as a unifying figure to unite the warring parties] we may well ask ourselves if Sir Winston was a good chooser of men. There is little doubt that first impressions weighed very heavily with him. On the other hand, he had no use for ‘Yes men.’ He loved argument and discussion, and was only too happy when he could convince people that his views were the right ones. But if his friends or advisors could convince him that he was wrong, which was not an easy thing to do, he accepted our opinions and backed them up to the hilt with the fullest loyalty and cooperation. I think that one of his most endearing qualities was that he never bore malice or rancour against anyone who disagreed with him. As far as I know, he never said, ‘I told you so,’ whatever the occasion may have been.
Ted Morgan, in Churchill: The Rise to Failure, offers an example of Churchill’s maxim, combined with the interesting suggestion that he preferred being in opposition to being part of a government (or at least a party government, as opposed to a coalition, which attracted him). After the 1906 general election, a sweep which propelled Churchill’s Liberal Party into office with a vast majority:
An exultant Churchill wrote to Bonar Law, whose rise in the Tory ranks had been temporarily halted by his defeat in Glasgow, that ‘the wheel has swung full circle in the country and we may be at work for some time. I resist all temptations to say I told you so! Perhaps if you had a clear run you might have got across your fence. But the ‘double objective’ [free trade and the treatment of Chinese coolies] was fatal. It would be great fun to be a Tory now. I expect you will not be long out of the House. The wheel may turn again.
Field Marshal Sir Henry Wilson noticed Churchill’s impulse not to pound on about how he had been right, on 12 April 1921 after the Turks had inflicted a painful defeat on the Greeks, which Churchill hoped would encourage less conflict in Asia Minor. From The Churchill Documents vol. 10:
I had a long talk with Winston in his new room in the Colonial Office. He is delighted the Greeks have been whipped by the Turks and hopes they may have further disasters. He has always been on my side over this. He says PM [Lloyd George] is very sore about it and advised me to walk warily and not say ‘I told you so’ too often….
Featured Image: They were with him now, but he never said “I told you so”: Churchill addressing Americans at Harvard, 1943.
I think this is wrong. I’ve been telling my students for years: Winston Churchill said, in effect, “Don’t ever say ‘I told you so,’ unless you wrote it down.” Recently, I had occasion to see if others quoted his saying this and I came across your saying the opposite, but you give hazy sources. Here’s my source, from 1923.
Winston S. Churchill, The World Crisis, 1911- 1914, first edition, published Apr 1923 by Thornton Butterworth Ltd.
From the Preface, third paragraph, which appears on page 6 of the edition referred to above.
…I have made or implied no criticism of any decision or action taken or neglected by others, unless I can prove that I had expressed the same opinion in writing before the event. [[last three words in italics in original]]
In the sixth paragraph:
Nothing of any consequence was done by me by word of mouth. A complete record therefore exists of executive and administrative action.
In the seventh paragraph:
Where the decision lay outside my powers and was taken contrary to my advice, I rest on the written record of my warning.
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I often summarize these words to my students as follows.
As Churchill wrote, in effect, “Don’t ever say ‘I told you so,’ unless you wrote it down .”
Don’t you think it reasonable to read those words to mean “I’ve made criticisms of decisions on occasion and on those occasions I wrote down my opinions before the event.”
I’m Professor Emeritus from the University of Chicago and currently Visiting Professor at the Dept of Economics Princeton.
We can find no instance where he said, “Don’t ever say ‘I told you so’ unless you wrote it down.” If you track this, please let us know. You are quite right that Churchill’s critiques of government policy in The World Crisis and The Second World War are examples of “I told you so,” although that was the point of his warnings. There, he was warning people not to “rub it in” in conversation, however right they may have been over something in the past. He did practice this, as with former appeasers after the war had started. In analyzing the causes of and mistakes surrounding the two world wars, he was definitely saying he’d told them so—but even there he tried to make those points only if he had criticized those mistakes at the time they were made. Warning of danger at the time is more admirable than carping about it after the fact.
January 6, 2022. Mr. Langworth and I make separate points, neither at odds with the other unless you so abbreviate them that you see only the words: Churchill said, “Don’t ever say I told you so.” Churchill said, in effect, “Don’t ever say I told you so unless you wrote it down.” I agree that Churchill urged his listeners, mentees, students, colleagues et al. never to rub it in–don’t ever say I told you so just to rub in that you had it right and they had it wrong.
My quotations from Churchill mean to learn from him that you should have said in advance what you claim after the fact to have thought or predicted. Show what you said or give auditable references to it. This has nothing to do with rubbing it in.
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I agree that we are talking about apples and oranges. —RML